Over my limited amount of days I have had on this Earth, I have learned a few things. The most recent I feel is common sense. I often have people coming to me upset. Their first inclination is, “Hey, I’m going to get drunk tonight because I hate everything.” At times, yes I am guilty of probably saying that exact phrase, but, I have come to a conclusion that I think others need to consider. When you are sad or upset about a situation, and choose to drink, do drugs, etc to get over it, what are you accomplishing? You spend your money on these substances, ingest them, ruining some part of your functioning body, have temporary relief, and then come back to what. Do you really feel better after? Probably not. You probably return to the world where you have to deal with the problem that has still gone away, and possibly some kind of hangover. Does that make it better? No. I think you need to take a step back from the situation. Clinging to substances as a way to get away from your problems leads to bigger problems in the long run. Health issues, dependencys, etc. Is that what you want to deal with? Instead of being self-destructive, take a step back and find something else to do. Mad? Go on a run, yell your head off, etc. At least the run would benefit you. Even go punch a punching bag, it’ll benefit your body as well. Maybe even deal with the problem, in the long run you’ll save yourself money, maybe spend a little time, but you may even feel relieved when dealing with the real problem at hand.

Love,

Paulabear

So here’s to today. I got hired at a new job, put my two weeks in at my old one. Making some major life changes, and getting out of the place where I am forced to see someone who just makes me sad. Going to make a change for the better, get happy. Do things with my life that I want to accomplish. Make that paper. Get out there and DO IT. Turning over a new page, Ima go out and GET IT.

A day of dread, and a day of happiness. Valentines day is looked upon by others in many different aspects. Couples have the expectancy of happiness and letting each other know just how much you care. Singles have the expectancy of a suprise from someone who maybe cares, some look upon it as a very sad day, and to some, its just another day of the week. I being single, am one that was hoping for a surprise but as they hours of the day are coming and going, I know better than to get my hopes up. As I was on facebook today, I saw wonderful pictures of gifts from significant others, status’ about valentines day, and status’ about how sad some people were. I came accross one status that said this “Everyone who doesn’t have a valentine, shut up no one cares that you will be fucking yourself tonight. Get over it. Jesussss” or something like that. I don’t know how you all feel about this, but after reading that for a brief moment, I searched the page for the unfriend button. Here is my take on this. I’m glad you have had a boyfriend for 3 years, but some of us are not as lucky as you. Some people are sad on valentines day, let them be sad. There is no reason for you to put something so vulgar and out there because your life is perfect today, I guess. This also brings me to a slight side note. If you don’t like what someone is posting on facebook, simply unfriend them. We live in an age where everyone seems to need to put their two cents in on anything they don’t like. Unfriend them and get over it. I babysat last night for a married couple whom I regularly babysit for. Didn’t make me one bit sad, to see how happy they were to just have a night to go to a movie and get some dinner together, made me happy I could provide them with this time to bond over their love. My point is, have some compassion, not everyone has someone wonderful in their life. There are so many amazing people out there, and so many beautiful girls who might not have someone today, go show them some love. & to all of you, happy valentines day, I hope it was an amazing one.

-Paulabear

Made a video about my experience this weekend. Has some foul language, watch it if you want :P

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZOY9REZBoUg

To all my highschool friends.

You get to college, and it doesn’t matter who was the most popular, who had the most friends, who was the biggest loser, who had they most boyfriends, or the longest relationship. You’re a stranger to everyone, and it is up to you to create your image. The drama comes only if you want it to. It’s a dog-eat- dog world and everyone in college is simply trying to get by, make money, and get out. They don’t care about you or where you came from, they just want to get by like everyone else. The high school drama is a normal thing, happens to everyone at that age, you grow out of it, trust me, and if you don’t, well… maybe you need to surround yourself with new people. There will be the occasional drama, but its something that goes away pretty quick, its not like high school where you get mad at some girl for something or another, and are mad for possibly the rest of your high school career. Once you graduate you realize that everyone has their issues. People you hate might even become your friends, as I have learned multiple times since graduation. Make good enough grades to get into college, and focus on having fun while you have time to do so. College is not as easy as some people say.  Yeah I have class Monday, Wednesday, and Friday, but your assignments for the 6 classes I have are reading a chapter per night. Chapters aren’t like ten pages, they’re more like 20-30. Calculate, that’s about 180 pages a night. Try having a social life and making straight A’s in college, virtually impossible.  Besides that, your grade for the class is calculated from 4 tests and thats it, not a bunch of assignments you can bullshit your way through. Once you move out and go to school, you’re now responsible for food, gas, rent, utilities, and then among that having extra money to do things that you enjoy. Life after high school is no cakewalk. This is your time to go have fun, do crazy things (not too crazy some of you go a little far), and just enjoy the time you have with your parents. You’re going to realize when you get into the real world your parents were right about 99% of the time. Show love for the people you care about, and a mutual respect for those that you don’t, because soon about 90% of those people are going to drop out of your life. In college you really have to work at keeping those there that you wish to have as friends. You have to learn to keep your mouth shut, sit in class, and just absorb information. High school is just a phase in your life, and every high schooler will go through the same kinds of issues.

This wasn’t to bash my high school friends, I just want you all to know the issues of today, will become something you forget completely in the future. Enjoy it while you can, and just get along with each other already.

& if the time comes and you need someone to talk to, I’m here.

Paulabear.

As we come into the age of technology, blogging is now a very common thing. With my major of Journalism and Mass Communications, I figured it wouldn’t be a bad idea to start one of my own. My posts are strictly opinion based, and what is on my mind. Try not to take offense, and if you do, there is a wonderful exit button. These are my random ramblings, and I will attempt to keep them from being strictly me hating on others. Otherwise thanks for visiting, and taking the time to read my posts!